Why I Do Stuff Alone

Got a call from Sean last night which caused me to reflect on my recent attempts at social plans with friends - and why I generally do everything by myself:

• S Factor "Evening of Enchantment": 6 women (3 coworkers, 1 friend, 2 friends of friend) were all hyped up about going. I sent the registration link to them immediately - told them it would fill up quick so they should do the FREE registration ASAP, then to contact me and I'd reserve a spot for them on the party buses being reserved by the OC studio. Lots of emails fly back and forth. Everyone is very excited about it. Thursday I confirmed that the event is full and that not one of the 6 "so excited" women ever bothered to register. Fuck them. I know it's going to be a good night. I registered within an hour of it being announced. I'm going!
• Lucha VaVoom "Luchadores Are Go!": 2 coworkers hear me talking about it. Decide we should all go together. I send all the info & ticket links. I'm pretty sure they expect me to buy all the tix but I'm VERY clear about it being a general admission event and they need to get their own tix. One brings it up every week or two - then completely forgets about it. I bought my ticket. They'll bitch after I go without them. Oh well, I am not their social secretary. I'm going solo. I'm sure I'll have a blast.
• GayDays Disneyland / Kingdom Party: No one returns my emails asking who's going. I take that to mean they don't want me to go with them. Bummer - but I'm okay with that. Decide I'll go to the Kingdom Party solo. Cezar sends last minute request to go to GayDays. I change plans to go to that. Haven't heard from him since. No idea of our status - but as of now we're looking at 2pm arrival at the earliest. Park closes late (10 or 11pm) - but Kingdom Party (which I know Cezar wants to attend) starts around 8 or 9. I figure a max of 8 hrs at the park. That's a max of 8 rides (probably more like 5 or 6). Park admission is $66 (another $40 for the party) - plus food/drinks & souvenirs. Dland is fun - but not that fun. I'm hoping Cezar doesn't call to go to the park. I'm undecided about the party.
• The Wet Spots in SF: Sean and I exchanged at least 6 emails each about me going up there. I would confirm, buttlag about booking, then - when I started looking at booking again, I would reconfirm that he was still going to be available on Sat the 20th. We did another round Thurs/Fri. His said his mother will be visiting but she's leaving on the 20th, shortly before I'm arriving, so all was "go". I booked my flights Fri afternoon. 3 HOURS later, Sean left a voicemail that he forgot about a work thing on the 20th and wanted to make sure I'm going up, and we're going to see the Wet Spots on the 19th. We confirmed the 20th at least 10 times. Now I'm not even sure he's going to be home so I can drop off my overnight bag before the show. Heck, I don't even know if I'm going to get to sleep on his sofa. Whatever, it's booked and I'm going! (also going to try to find Grumblebunny's fav cheesesteak, and maybe Drag Brunch).

I started doing stuff alone because I got tired of having my life on hold while other people farted around. It became such habit that I realized I had literally forgotten there was even an option to invite people to do things with me. But, once again, I'm reminded why I usually don't bother.